How do I react when someone comes out to me?

OK, so someone came out to you. You may have absolutely no idea how to react. However, its likely that whoever it was is expecting some sort of reaction. They are likely very worried about it. Try to be sensitive to this when you reply!

The best first step is to imagine yourself in their position, and think… If you came out to someone close to you, what would you be hoping to hear? This sounds simple, and it is! Most people hope for acceptance, and this may be very hard for you. You have only known about this person’s sexuality for a short time. They have known a lot longer!

Try to be supportive. Assure them that it does not change how you feel about them, and although it will change both your lives, it need not be a bad change. Try to avoid being negative or insulting, or preachy. It’s ok to express worry and fears, some people worry about the health of the LGBT person. That is normal, and it shows that you care about them! However, don’t be too suffocating. Both of you will need a little space to let this information sink in.

If you are a parent, although right now it may be very hard and you may feel disappointed, remember the fear that your child must have had to tell you this. Be proud that they have such bravery to tell you this secret!

None of this information may fully prepare you for how to react, but hopefully it will give you some thought and tips!